Baie maklik, dis hoe! Ek het hierdie by iemand gekry. Dis so waar...
Loving Two
As I hold your hand basking in the glow of our magical relationship,
I suddenly feel a kick from within,
as if to remind me that our time alone is limited.
And I wonder:
How could I ever love another child as I love you?
Then that other child is born, and I watch you.
I watch the pain you feel at having to share me,
as you’ve never shared me before.
I hear you telling me and others in your own way,
“Please love only me.”
And I hear myself telling you in mine,
“I can’t,” knowing, in fact, that I never can again.
You cry. I cry with you.
I almost see our new baby as an intruder
on the precious relationship we once shared.
A relationship we can never quite have again.
But then, in my own heart,
I find myself attached to that new being,
an immence love growing in the deepest of my heart
and feeling almost guilty.
I’m afraid to let you see me enjoying him.
–as though I am betraying you.
But then I notice your resentment change,
first to curiosity, then to protectiveness,
finally to genuine affection.
More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine.
The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.
But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two.
There are new times equally as wonderful–only now, we are three.
I watch the love between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other.
I watch how he adores you–as I have for so long.
I see how excited you are by each of his new accomplishments.
And I begin to realize that I haven’t taken something from you,
I’ve given something to you more special than any material gift.
I noticed that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you.
I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong.
And my question is finally answered,
to my amazement…
Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you–
only differently.
And although I realize that you may have to share my time,
share toys, share sweets, grandparents and everything else
I now know you’ll never share my love.
There’s enough of that for both of you
–you each have your own supply.
I love you–both equally differently
and I thank you for blessing my life.
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Dit som dit so mooi op en dis 'n boodskap wat ek vir hulle tweetjies hier wil los vir eendag as hulle dalk wonder! Die vraag moet eerder wees hoe kan jy nie vir al twee of al drie of al tien of al twintig jou kinders lief wees nie...
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